Pround To Be A Single (but not single) Mom

For many years in the past, I have lived the reality of being a single mom. Being a single mom consists of so much more than just putting a roof over your child's head, making sure there is food on the table and clothes on their backs.  It is also made up of having the ability balance discipline and love, punishments and praises, and, influence and guidance. As a single mom of a boy, this was not easy. I had to be the strong one when it came to discipline and the soft one when he was hurting. We all know that there is no guide to being a perfect parent. No matter how many books you read, or how many counseling sessions or parenting classes you take, all children are unique, one can't be predicted.

Oh, and then there is that ever judging society. I don't care what any human says, society is very judgemental of single parents. You never fit-in quite like those mom's with the big houses, nice cars and especially the "I Have All The Time In The World" mom's. I get it, you all are wonderful, but, I just can't relate. Every game you attend, every school activity set through, you sit by yourself and wish those mom's would stop looking at you with despair.  But hey, I'm not there for them. It maybe elementary for society to judge, but, it takes a proud "Single Mom" to accept it. 

Now that I have a live-in spouse, whom I am not married to, it doesn't make me "formally" a single mom. I used to be appalled when I would hear another mom talk about being a single mom when, in fact, she wasn't single. Wow, boy was I wrong.  I suppose you could say that I was the one being quick to judge. I still balance all the needs of my child and I do it alone, financially, physically and emotionally. I still accept the things society throws at me. I just wanna say Amen to those single mommy's who know where they stand. It's been really hard for me to figure out alone, however, it has been a positive life changer. I have learned so much throughout "the single mom life" years, that I have become so much stronger by being a single mom, then I ever could imagine. 

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